People who are always pessimistic make my brain hurt. Really hurt (even though your brain doesn’t actually have feeling, but that’s another topic). Every so often (sometimes more often than not), I see a Facebook post, a Tweet, or hear in conversation, very negative attitude or a very pessimistic outlook. I have to wonder if some of this is attention seeking behavior or something else.
What I hear/read and what is going through my head when I hear/read them:
1. "I work all the time and never see my friends or family." Ok, I get that. But guess what. At least you have a job and can pay your bills.
2. “I hate my job.” Or “I bet this employer is better than ours.” There is bullshit at every job. The same personalities of people exist at every job; they just wear different clothes/uniforms. If you don't like your job, then quit and find a different one. The grass isn’t always greener, but hey, if that’s what you want, you know where the door is.
3. “All I do is go to school, study, work. I have no life.” Hey, guess what, you going to school is your choice; there are many people who don’t have the means or funds to go to school. Feel lucky that you can get an education.
4. “I hate my body.” “I’m fat.” –from a person who is overweight. Well, guess what. Everyone has the same 24 hours in a day. A one hour workout is 4%of your day. WEIRD. There is no magic pill or program; you have to do the work and put in the effort, both in exercise and in the kitchen. Also, you probably don’t have to worry about when your next meal will be. There are many people who don’t know when they will get another chance to eat.
5. “I hate my body, I am fat.” –from a person who has an eating disorder. This saddens me. I have seen and heard some people like this. We can thank media and society for some of this bullshit.
6. “He or She doesn’t like me anymore” or “so and so broke up with me.” Or “I can’t meet anyone.” Well, sorry to say, life isn’t a Disney/romantic movie. There are many ways to meet people, and yes it is scary, and yes things don’t always work out. Just have to get out of your comfort zone and play the game of life.
7. “I just don’t have enough time! There is too much to do!” We all have 24 hours. If you want longer days, go live on Venus, where 1 day is roughly equal to 243 Earth days. Be happy Earth isn’t like Jupiter where one day is roughly 9.9 hours. But then again, those planets aren’t exactly “Human Friendly.”
Life is what you make of it. Circular negative reasoning, thoughts, and actions will get you nowhere, and fast. Instead of looking at life so negatively, look for the happiness or silver lining.
What I hear/read and what is going through my head when I hear/read them:
1. "I work all the time and never see my friends or family." Ok, I get that. But guess what. At least you have a job and can pay your bills.
2. “I hate my job.” Or “I bet this employer is better than ours.” There is bullshit at every job. The same personalities of people exist at every job; they just wear different clothes/uniforms. If you don't like your job, then quit and find a different one. The grass isn’t always greener, but hey, if that’s what you want, you know where the door is.
3. “All I do is go to school, study, work. I have no life.” Hey, guess what, you going to school is your choice; there are many people who don’t have the means or funds to go to school. Feel lucky that you can get an education.
4. “I hate my body.” “I’m fat.” –from a person who is overweight. Well, guess what. Everyone has the same 24 hours in a day. A one hour workout is 4%of your day. WEIRD. There is no magic pill or program; you have to do the work and put in the effort, both in exercise and in the kitchen. Also, you probably don’t have to worry about when your next meal will be. There are many people who don’t know when they will get another chance to eat.
5. “I hate my body, I am fat.” –from a person who has an eating disorder. This saddens me. I have seen and heard some people like this. We can thank media and society for some of this bullshit.
6. “He or She doesn’t like me anymore” or “so and so broke up with me.” Or “I can’t meet anyone.” Well, sorry to say, life isn’t a Disney/romantic movie. There are many ways to meet people, and yes it is scary, and yes things don’t always work out. Just have to get out of your comfort zone and play the game of life.
7. “I just don’t have enough time! There is too much to do!” We all have 24 hours. If you want longer days, go live on Venus, where 1 day is roughly equal to 243 Earth days. Be happy Earth isn’t like Jupiter where one day is roughly 9.9 hours. But then again, those planets aren’t exactly “Human Friendly.”
Life is what you make of it. Circular negative reasoning, thoughts, and actions will get you nowhere, and fast. Instead of looking at life so negatively, look for the happiness or silver lining.
Ways to look at life more positively:
1. I am alive today. What can I do today to make myself a better person or better in general, than yesterday? What can I do for MYSELF that will make me happier?
2. How can I be active today? If I need help getting into shape, where can I go to get the correct information I need? Sitting on your couch, self –loathing or quick fixes won’t do any good. Being healthy is about balance, not extremes.
3. Make lists of things that need to get done, if they don’t get done today, RELAX, there will be a tomorrow.
4. Being single isn’t a bad thing. Being with someone/married isn’t always a good thing. You have to be happy with yourself in order to be happy with others. No other person, but yourself will give you positive self-worth, positive self-esteem, or a positive out-look on life.
5. There are people out there that are just mean, people who like to stir the shit pot, and people who love to start rumors. You have a choice. You can react to them by flying off the handle, which maybe is what they want, you can call them out, or you can just do your best to roll with the punches and dispel any of the rumors. I love finding out stuff about myself I never knew, from other people. You can’t control what other people do; you can only control your reaction to them (in this type of situation).
6. There is nothing wrong with therapy. Therapy can be a wonderful tool to have when dealing with life. I go to therapy, when I need to. One of the best decisions I have ever made.
1. I am alive today. What can I do today to make myself a better person or better in general, than yesterday? What can I do for MYSELF that will make me happier?
2. How can I be active today? If I need help getting into shape, where can I go to get the correct information I need? Sitting on your couch, self –loathing or quick fixes won’t do any good. Being healthy is about balance, not extremes.
3. Make lists of things that need to get done, if they don’t get done today, RELAX, there will be a tomorrow.
4. Being single isn’t a bad thing. Being with someone/married isn’t always a good thing. You have to be happy with yourself in order to be happy with others. No other person, but yourself will give you positive self-worth, positive self-esteem, or a positive out-look on life.
5. There are people out there that are just mean, people who like to stir the shit pot, and people who love to start rumors. You have a choice. You can react to them by flying off the handle, which maybe is what they want, you can call them out, or you can just do your best to roll with the punches and dispel any of the rumors. I love finding out stuff about myself I never knew, from other people. You can’t control what other people do; you can only control your reaction to them (in this type of situation).
6. There is nothing wrong with therapy. Therapy can be a wonderful tool to have when dealing with life. I go to therapy, when I need to. One of the best decisions I have ever made.
Now, I know this will piss some people off, and so be it. I write this to maybe get through to one, if not more people who have this circular thinking and pessimistic attitude.
I have said these things to some of my friends directly; they get pissed at me, they think I don’t understand. Guess what…I do. I understand greatly; I have been in every one of these situations. The difference is, I have made a choice, a decision; not to be negative or pessimistic around people, as best as I can. Granted, I know we all have our bad days, and I am not saying to have a smile on your face every day. We all have our shit to deal with, but being a Debbie Downer all the time on social media and around your friends and coworkers, will only dwindle your circle of friends or people who want to be around you. Life just isn’t that bad and it could be a SHIT ton worse.
You can either roll with the punches of life with a smile on your face, or you can get smacked down by them. Happiness a choice; your choice.
Have a fabulous day today, tomorrow, and beyond!
Christine Hale
I have said these things to some of my friends directly; they get pissed at me, they think I don’t understand. Guess what…I do. I understand greatly; I have been in every one of these situations. The difference is, I have made a choice, a decision; not to be negative or pessimistic around people, as best as I can. Granted, I know we all have our bad days, and I am not saying to have a smile on your face every day. We all have our shit to deal with, but being a Debbie Downer all the time on social media and around your friends and coworkers, will only dwindle your circle of friends or people who want to be around you. Life just isn’t that bad and it could be a SHIT ton worse.
You can either roll with the punches of life with a smile on your face, or you can get smacked down by them. Happiness a choice; your choice.
Have a fabulous day today, tomorrow, and beyond!
Christine Hale
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